The Monday Mashup

First Valentine’s Day As Parents, Improving Connection with Your Kids, Jessie Raspbury

Valentine’s Day is a day to remember. While there is nothing sweeter than spending time with your significant other, why not make it a special day for all your loved ones and celebrate Valentine’s Day as a family.

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Blog Post We Like

Now that baby is here, sleep is hard to come by and romance even harder. Being a new parent can certainly add some stress to your relationship, Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to step back, relax and enjoy each other. There is no greater and purest love relationship than that of a parent and a child to celebrate true love and true valentine in its selfless form. Here’s how to keep the flame alive on Your First Valentine’s Day As Parents:

  • At Home Ideas: Exchange cards. Make a rule that they must be written in – not just a generic “I Love You.”
  • Treat A New Mom To: A Break. Let her feel as though she doesn’t need to lift a finger.
  • Spoil a New Dad: A Lesson Toward a Hobby. You can sign him up for a running club, golf lessons, photography class, or contact a fly fishing group.

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This Week’s Article

 5 Keys to Improving the Connection with Your Kids
You had big plans for how you envisioned life as a parent…or maybe you didn’t — but they’re here now and you’re shocked at how triggered you can get by this tiny human you made, almost embarrassed by some of your reactions to them, and want so badly to consistently do better. If this sounds about right, then you’re in the right place. In this article, I will discuss (in no particular order) the 5 keys to improving the connection between you and your children. Read more.
 

Helper of the Week

Jessie Raspbury is a massage therapist who serves seniors in nursing homes, and people with disabilities. She provides adaptive massage, a technique that caters to each massage session and the individuals’ unique needs.

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Much love to you and your family,

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The Shark in a Tank Story, Back to School Stress Management, Kitchen Life Transformation (#27)

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Check Out This Story

During a research experiment a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.
As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.

The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.

Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off. Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail. Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition. Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.

This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.

The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the shark didn’t attack. The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.

The Moral:

“Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stop trying. Like the shark in the story, we believe that because we were unsuccessful in the past, we will always be unsuccessful. In other words, we continue to see a barrier in our heads, even when no ‘real’ barrier exists between where we are and we want to go.”

This Week’s Article

Managing Stress During the Back-to-School Transition

The back-to-school season can be a stressful time for both parents and kids. Any new transition can bring about changes in routines and schedules that leave us feeling discombobulated and overwhelmed. The transition back to in-person school can add a new layer of challenges for parents. As you work to manage your own stress and lengthy to-do list, you might also need to help soothe any anxieties your child might have about returning to school. Read more.

Helper of the Week

Kitchen Life Transformation, Making meal planning simple & sustainable for even the busiest moms. Kare helps busy moms get back the time, energy, and brain power they normally spend on worrying about what’s for dinner by teaching them how to make meal planning quick, easy, and sustainable.

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Parenting After Divorce, Postpartum Recovery, Lactation On Demand LLC (#26)

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Advice We Read

Millions of children worldwide experience family disruption and divorce rates are rising in many nations. Co-parenting after a separation or divorce is rarely easy. Divorce can have a significant impact on your child’s life, what will determine their ultimate quality of life is still in the hands of each parent. These shared custody tips from Empowering Parents can help give your children the stability, security, and close relationships with both parents that they need. Here are 3 of the 9 Ways to Parent on Your Own Terms:

  • How to Manage Your Child’s Transition Between Homes
  • Understand Why Your Child Acts Out
  • Don’t Forego Consequences Out of Guilt

(Read here)

This Week’s Article

Postpartum Recovery: What To Do (and What NOT to Do) After Giving Birth
Pregnancy can be a time of high anxiety for a lot of women, especially first-time parents who aren’t sure what to expect. Many questions may run through your mind: “How will I feel towards the end of my pregnancy?”; “What should I bring to the hospital?”; “How will my labor go?”; “Will I be ready for my new baby?”. Read more.
 

Helper of the Week

Lactation: On Demand LLC, a nurse and an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant since 2014. She has worked with thousands of families at a large hospital in Charleston, SC. In 2021, she decided to open her own practice to focus on prenatal breastfeeding education and early postpartum support.

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Pregnancy with a Toddler, Why is Music so Powerful, Sydney Pauker (#25)

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Blogpost We Read

Are you expecting your second baby and have a little one running around the house? Pregnancy with a toddler is probably a little different than your first pregnancy. You might be worried that when the new baby arrives, your oldest child will feel abandoned. At first, this may seem like a lot to handle, but with little advice and assistance, you’ll be able to manage pregnancy with a toddler with ease.

Here’s how you can balance the two:

  • Keep Your Toddler Entertained
  • Be Patient With Yourself
  • Make Time for Self-Care

(Read here)

This Week’s Article

Music: The Ideal Medicine for Home Wellness
Who has not experienced a nearly instant transformation when listening to a favorite song? Why is music so powerful? Researchers have known for decades that people interpret their feelings differently when their environment changes. Music creates a different environment. Read more.
 

Helper of the Week

Sydney Pauker is a certified Birth Doula and Breastfeeding Counselor. She has been working at a local birth center for the past year as a birth helper. In her time working as a doula she has helped hundreds of families across the globe. Supported over 700 moms in their pregnancy, postpartum, & breastfeeding journey.

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Slow Processing in Slow Parenting, Natural Pregnancy in the First Trimester, Marissa Ahern (#24)

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What We Listened to

The Slow Parenting movement has rapidly gained popularity in recent years. Danielle Sullivan talked about slow processing and trying slow parenting on her Neurodiverging podcast.

Her family struggles with intermittent slow processing speed. She tried different kinds of parenting styles and she found slow parenting, the parenting approach that supports slower processing speeds.

Excerpt:

“The idea with slow parenting is to try to create more space and more time in the day for your child to process the world at their own pace, and to decrease the number of other things they have to do that will take away from their focus on processing. We just talked about how many of our children are overwhelmed, without enough time or space to think. Slow parenting creates this time and space for them.”

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This Week’s Article

12 Ways to Kick Off Your Natural Pregnancy in the First Trimester
As humans, when we find out that we are going to be parents, we sometimes tend to want to hoard all the information we can get our hands on. This is especially true for first-time parents, who are diving into a whole new world headfirst, but it is also true of parents who have other children. You’d be surprised how new everything can feel when there has been a few years in between. Read more.
 

Helper of the Week

Marissa Ahern, LMSW, is an EMDR-trained therapist who works alongside individuals as they integrate trauma into their life’s narrative, cope with anxiety and navigate relationships. Specialize in working with people who struggle with anxiety, have survived a traumatic experience and/or have difficulty navigating relationships.

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Family New Year’s Resolution, Behavior Tweaks to Get Kids to Listen, What Teens Wish Parents Knew (#23)

Wishing you and your family health, happiness, and prosperity for 2023. This year will be extraordinary and filled with insights and support that you’ll need to connect with your children in a way that allows each child to thrive.

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Blogpost We Read

Families who make goals together keep goals together. They can be fun and sure to benefit your entire household. Making resolutions as a family will help you attain your goals more quickly since everyone will encourage you. Your objective should be clear, measurable, and achievable in a reasonable amount of time. Here’s a roundup of the resolutions from Today’s Parent that you and your family should make:

  • Focus on quality, not quantity
  • Say no to sarcasm
  • Don’t forget date nights

(Read the list here)

Tips We Like

Children frequently have trouble focusing, but when given a task they perceive as challenging, they are much more likely to quit before giving it their best. Tweaking your approach will help your child pay attention. Parents.com listed ways that may aid in maximizing your child’s ability to listen and minimize your frustration:

Excerpt:
“It’s important to establish routines so he knows what’s coming next. If he always takes a bath before storytime, remind your child that he can only spend ten minutes in the tub if he wants to read his favorite book.”

(Read here)

What We Watched

Our children go through so much unimaginable change as teens. Getting your kids to open up is all about knowing what questions to ask. More importantly, their answers will help us become better parents and ultimately create a deeper, more meaningful bond with our kids. FLEXTALK interviewed four teens, asking them seven things they wished they could say to their parents. Here are 3 of the talking points:

  • Admit when you’re wrong.
  • Don’t dismiss my feelings as “just being moody”.
  • Affirm once in a while.

(Watch it here)

This Week’s Article

Adventures in Exclusive Pumping for Twins
When the babies were born at 36 weeks, one baby was in recovery with me, Dani, and the other baby was in the NICU for the duration of the time we were in the hospital, Gaby. Thankfully, she had a very quick recovery and we were able to go home together on day 5 postpartum. Read more.
 

Helper of the Week

Amy Joy Parenting Coach is a mom of two and a former special ed teacher. She can help with discipline problems, with parenting neurodivergent kiddos or kids with sensory processing issues, or if you have any questions about how your little one is doing in school.

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