Sara Kay’s If I Should Have a Daughter, Affirming Words by Gary Smalley, Slow Parenting Teens (#14)

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What We Watched

The poem “If I Should Have a Daughter” by Sara Kay, demonstrates when one is taught to think with an open mind, it will result in learning to not be afraid of others’ opinions. In a talk that inspired two standing ovations at TED2011, she tells the story of her metamorphosis — from a wide-eyed teenager soaking in verse at New York’s Bowery Poetry Club to a teacher connecting kids with the power of self-expression

Poem excerpt:

“If I should have a daughter, instead of Mom, she’s going to call me point B because that way she knows that no matter what happens, at least she can always find her way to me.”

(Watch here)

Quote We Like

“Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in a child’s life and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.”
Gary Smalley, Family Therapist

Book We Read

If your relationship with your teen isn’t what you want—YOU can change it. The five “slow” attitudes in the “Slow Parenting Teens: How to Create a Positive, Respectful, and Fun Relationship with Your Teenager” book will help you face your own fears and create a positive, respectful, and fun parenting relationship. Authors Molly Wingate and Marti Woodward discuss how to set limits and punishments, how to deal with blended families, and how to slow parent teens who face big problems.

Book excerpt:

“Slow parenting teens is not about raising kids without problems, struggles, or even physiological challenges. It’s about building and maintaining a relationship with your teen so you can move through “trouble” together and not as enemies. You become your teenager’s role model for owning tough feelings and choices. You demonstrate self-care and compassion.”

(Source here)

This Week’s Article

Book Review: Dr. Anbar’s Use of Hypnosis to Change Children’s Lives
Exploring a doctor’s claims that hypnosis is an effective intervention in children. Right from the introduction, pediatric pulmonologist Ran Anbar starts off with a powerful and provocative question about bothering with hypnosis in the midst of so much other medical technology. Read more.

Helper of the Week

Beyond Milk Lactation comprehensive lactation assistance and support. They offer postpartum lactation consultation in the comfort of your own home and virtual consultation for many issues that may not require hands-on support. They also provide prenatal consultations, perfect for those who want to get a head start on breastfeeding or want to set themselves up for success.

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Have a wonderful week, all.

Much love to you and your family,

The Monkey Mashup Staff

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